By now it is more and more known that the quality of life is 100 % depended on us having our needs met, the more recources we have to meet our needs the more we will thrive as human beings, same goes for any other life form on this planet.
HAVING YOUR NEEDS MET = YOU THRIVING.
But there is this hidden invisible belief that can make this whole process of you getting what you need extremly hard. Maybe on the surface you are all about wanting to have nourishing and deep
relationships and creating the life you desire, maybe that‘s what you are really indentified with and consciously persuing but deep down hidden in your subconscious you feel like it‘s not okay to have those needs.
CONCSIOULY WE ARE LONGING FOR AFFECTION, CARE & VALIDATION BUT DEEP DOWN A PART IN US BELIEVES THAT IT'S NOT OKAY NO HAVE THESE EMOTIONAL NEEDS.
Many people aren‘t aware of this subconscious belief running their lives but it shows up in moments when instead of asking for support we chose to do it all by ourselves, in moments when we feel lonely we isolate ourselves and instead of expressing how we really feel we down play our feelings.
The true reason for why so many people are feeling neglected, unloved and starved is not because of the lack of people around them, it is that they have parts in them that still deny them having these needs in the first place. The authentic expression of their needs is covered up by this heavy layer of shame making it not okay to want and need to be loved which keeps them in starvation mode.
This shame is what keeps you alone in moments you are longing for warmth, care and affection.
It‘s heartbreaking to me.
It is crucial to become aware of this part in you because often we try so hard to have our needs met, we struggle and feel really powerless to get the connection and affection we want – and what blocks this whole process is you subconsciously believing it is not okay to depend on others.
Especially in the spiritual realm it has been highly praised to be independent, to be your own source of love and fulfillment and to be able to be happy being alone - which just enables this self rejecting belief coming from a childhood where we were emotionally neglected and seen as being too much and too needy. And while I totally believe that it‘s fundatemntal to cultivate a healthy and stable relationship with ourselves, the belief system that true happniess shouldn‘t dependent on others can often put this shame on us for needing people and for feeling lonely. Believing that we shouldn‘t depend on others is a great cover up for the true vulnerability that comes along with needing people. Being human is inherently vulnerable and so many run away from this truth.
Deep down we all need people, denying that is a coping stratetgy.
...And that place is so lonely.
THE BIGGEST WAY YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF IS TO ACCEPT AND EMBRACE THAT YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING WITH NEEDS.
Resisting your emotional needs will only lead to deprivation, exhaustion and living a life that feels unfulfilling and meaningless. In order to truly thrive you need to stop resisting this reality and start to make space for your human self to have those needs be met by others.
THE SHAME THAT KEPT YOU SAFE AS A CHILD IS NOW KEEPING YOU AWAY FROM RECEIVING LOVE.
To truly heal this pattern you have to come to terms with why you have these self rejecting beliefs and adress the subconscious parts in you that kept you starving. You need to be present and face the pain of having had these beliefs deny you from experiencing true love AND YOU DON‘T HAVE TO DO THIS ON YOUR OWN. YOU DESERVE ENDLESS AMOUNTS OF COMPASSION FOR HAVING CARRIED THE PAIN OF NEEDING TO RESIST AND SUPRESS YOURSELF.
YOU AND YOUR NEEDS MATTER.
The day you‘ll fully own and honor your needs and make them 100% okay you free yourself from the prison of shame that kept you invisible to others. By expressing your needs you open the door wide open for others to come in and allow them to love you.
Embracing your needs is the most direct road to you feeling deeply fulfilled and alive. Allow yourself to fall more and more in love with the innocence of your needs and your humaness.
IT'S TIME TO STOP RESISTING YOUR HUMAN SELF AND START CREATING A LIFE THAT FULLY HONORS YOUR NEEDS.
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