Everyone wants to feel and be loved...
and considering that this is truth for every living being upon this planet and what we are all longing for deep down, most people spend very little time consciously creating and seeking opportunities to receive love.
Being able to receive love is a fundament of a deeply fulfilled life and requires us to activly make space for it… and its takes actual practice. It means being vulnerable enough to show up as we really are, learning to ask for what we need and how to consciously take in love.
Are you allowing the people in you life to actually love you ?
Are you giving them space and opportunites to show up for you?
Are you expressing your needs & seeking support when needed?
Are you okay with taking up space?
Many people are scarred by the feeling that nobody cares about them coming from a childhood where their needs were not met, where they were neglected, rejected and dismissed. This wounding can cause them to walk around in a world full of people and feeling that no one really cares. Due to this wounding never having been resolved they view life and people through this very painful filter that makes it impossible for them to actually perceive the people that DO care. It is really hard for them to make space for other people to show up and love them even though it is what they most need.
THE QUALITY OF YOR LIFE IS 100% DETERMINDED BY YOUR ABILITY TO RECEIVE LOVE.
Holding the intention to focus on moments that made you feel loved (in whatever way) is very powerful and can be a beautiful practice to reflect about at the end of each day. Often there are many moments of love we tend to completely dismiss due to our wounding, these sweet little moments pass without us truly taking in the connection and love that arose in those moments. Letting love in takes actual practice and the more we practice it the more we can feel the love that is already there for us.
LETTING LOVE IN IS ALSO CONSCIOUSLY LETTING IN THE SMALL MOMENTS, ESPECIALLY THE SMALL ONES AS THEY HAPPEN EVERY DAY OFTEN WITHOUT US NOTICING.
Whenever I would hug someone I used to be very focussed on me hugging them instead of taking in the feeling of being hugged, which now whenever someone hugs me I fully focus on the receiving of the warmth and affection.
We all want love but many run away and avoid moments where we could actually receive it.
We all want someone to understand how we feel but aren‘t expressing what is going on inside of us.
We all want to be supported but we don‘t even consider asking for help.
The most painful split inside of us is between the part that is emotionally starving, that is desperately longing for love and that feels deeply neglected and alone and between the part in us that keeps love away, that won‘t ever let it in, that chronically blocks it off, making sure it never enters our awareness.
The reasons for why we have paticular parts in us that want to keep love away are extremly subconscious.
WE ARE OFTEN IDENTIFIED, AWARE OF AND CONNECTED TO THE STARVING PARTS IN US BUT NOT THE ONES THAT KEEP OURSELVES STARVING AND FEELING UNLOVED IN THE FIRST PLACE.
Everyone wants to be loved, and as adults we often blame the lack we feel onto the outside world when in truth we have to look inside and find the part in us that keeps love away. It is truly life changing. I‘ve watched people always talk about how much they want connection and love and how that‘s all they think about but every time they would receive a compliment or a moment of true presence they try to change the topic or get incredibly uncomfortbale.
Receiving love can be a shock to the nervous system when love was not a given growing up, when every time you received attention it came along with some hidden expectation, strings attached, when it never felt pure, unconditional or safe.
Most people struggle with receiving… for very good reasons, blocking off anything was the way to stay safe, to not let in any more pain that came from outside world. Not trusting people anymore and developing those protector parts ensured to experince no more harm coming our way but it also blocked us from receiving kindness, appreciation and care.
Receiving love is an incredibly challenging and vulnerable experience for those who‘ve never truly been loved. It naturally brings up the insecurities and pain of not having had those loving experiences before. It makes it so that the pain of the parts in us that feel so unlovavble, that are convinced they are not good enough and that nobody cares can‘t stay hidden anymore. It is a lot of pain that is lingering in there, completely untouched and unseen.
YOU DESERVE SO MUCH COMPASSION FOR HAVING GROWN UP IN A WORLD WHERE STAYING SAFE WAS DEPENDENT ON YOU ISOLATING YOURSELF, WITHDRAWING AND NOT LETTING ANYTHING IN.
If this has been part of your life experience then allow yourself to fully processes this reality. Know that your all of your fears, blockages and pains are so so valid. Your emotions are a gateway for you to understand what you went through, they are not random, they are a perfect reflection of what happened to you. Let out and honor the rage you feel about those circumstances and take all the time you need to grieve the love that wasn‘t there or that could not be let in. Let all the suppressed energy flow out of your system and release anything attached to this painful time of your life. By doing this you are creating space for true love to come your way- the biggest gift you can give yourself.
RESOLVING THESE SUBCONSCIOUS WALLS & OPENING YOURSELF UP FOR TRUE LOVE IS THE MOST SELFLOVING THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOUSELF.
It really is in your hands.
As always I want to leave this post reminding you of your inherent worthiness to receive love. You didn‘t come here to be alone and not need anyone, you came here to be wanted by others, to be deeply appreciated for who you are and feel that you matter. You really do deserve love.
Much love, Teresa
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