YOU DON'T ALWAYS HAVE TO KNOW ALL THE ANSWERS
I was recently sitting together with my housemate and chatting about life, I had just given a session to one of my clients, had quickly mentioned it and I guess was also expressing how stuck I‘ve recently felt in life, how I felt uninspired and lost, just sharing about my experience. He was saying something amongst the lines of: „ How can you help others so much in overcoming their stuckness, but not yourself?“
I first found that question a bit triggering, it brought up shame to the surface of my inner expectation to always know what I need and what the problem is, but I quickly reminded myself of a recent pain that came up, of me realizing how tired I was of always needing to guide myself. I could easily track this pain down to my own chidlhood, the lack of guidance, the missing experience of fully being seen, nobody being able to fully grasp who I am.
I was longing for presence and for someone who could lovingly guide me through life from time to time and would‘nt project their own stuff onto what is right for me.
So when my housemate asked me that question, I remembered what wound I had discovered.
I‘ve gotten really great at seeing myself, being able to contain myself in a whole lot of pain and trauma but also I‘m seeing how much me having no other option played into this „independence“.
I THINK WE ALL NEED AND DESERVE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES THAT CAN GRASP OUR HUMAN JOURNEY, THAT CAN TAP INTO OUR POTENTIAL AND THAT GUIDE US IN MOMENTS WHEN WE LOSE TRACK OF WHO WE ARE.
IT'S REALLY NOT THE POINT IN THIS LIFE TO DO IT ALL BY OURSELVES, LIFE GETS MUCH EASIER WHEN WE DROP THIS PAINFUL STORY AND ASK FOR THE SUPPORT WE NEED.
Most people don‘t persue their passions and dreams because they lack people that believe in them and their gifts. Most people stay stuck in miserable situations because they lack presence and compassion for their pain. Many people are so stuck and all it takes is someone to mirror them and listen and a good dose of empowerment.
So many people consciously or subconsciously hold on to this prison thought frame of needing to do it all alone. When we allow us to receive the presence we so desperately need it will speed up our process so so much. We get so much stronger. It‘s the path of true success, I believe.
The parts in us that always have felt lost, confused, directionless, unseen, unacknowlegded and worst of all have been left to figure it out all by themselves deserve to receive some guidance. They carry so much pain from never being seen and the unrealistic expectation to be there for ourselves coming from times when we were so little.
I‘ve made that commitment to myself now and it's been beautiful to drop this belief and receive what I haven't gotten before. It‘s such a RELIEF !
I know that so many people are in need of guidance and support and are still denying themselves of that need, it takes time to reprogram this belief, (I‘m still learning and practicing everyday) and to take action that is aligned with that. It‘s so worth it and so are you. Much love, Teresa
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